Does anybody else just hate it when another person calls you out on something?
There’s always that innate pullback – that inner reflex that pushes away conviction. This instinct of ours makes it easy for us to shove aside our flaws for the sake of pride.
This trade-off is not a healthy one.
If you’re anything like me, accepting correction is easier or harder depending on who it is from. For me, one of the people in my life that it is harder to take correction from is my mom. In fact, the inspiration for this post came when she convicted me the other day…
…and I squirmed like my dog when we try to cut her nails.
Conviction is uncomfortable, plain and simple. My warring will has a love-hate relationship with it. But that doesn’t make it any less crucial. Both conviction of the Holy Spirit in our heart – which often takes the form of pricks in the conscience – and the wise counsel of our loved ones and mentors matter.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
A large struggle of mine for a very long time has been that between pride and humility. How do we have victory over pride, selfish ambition, vanity and conceit in our lives, and surrender to the will of God – which is a humble heart?
There’s no formula. But I would say that spending time in prayer and in the Word with God – welcoming conviction rather than expelling it at all costs – has helped to soften my heart. When I first allow Christ to show me where I’ve gone wrong, it then becomes easier to accept feedback from others.
Truly, hearing what others have to say about us honestly – and comparing it with what God says about us first, of course – is one of the greatest ways to grow in our spiritual walks, leading to astronomical growth and change. The hardest part is recieving it.
I pray that all of our hearts would be softened by the Lord that we might be open to hearing our own sins, and that we might grow towards conquering them and becoming more like Christ in the process.
Defensiveness is never the answer. Walk with me as I choose to rest in God’s defense of my righteousness in Him, rather than making up lame excuses for my faults.
We’re in a fallen world. We will sin. Conviction is inevitable.
And the best people aren’t afraid to face that.